So if you get divorced because of an affair, and you're still really hurt and angry, what do you tell the kids? First of all, divorce is a grown up issue, even though it drastically affects your kids. And the one thing your kids really want to know is that you can never divorce them. So as your parent, I'm never going to be able to divorce you. I'm always going to be your mom, and this is always going to be your dad. And they don't want to know who's been sleeping with who. That's not their business, and that's not what they want to worry about. They want to know what's going to change for them. And if you're using your partner's affair as revenge for hurt in your own marriage, then you're only hurting your child. You're not even necessarily hurting your partner. So don't use your partner's affair as a way to punish your child when you're really trying to punish your partner. Reassure your child that even if you get divorced, you're never going to divorce them. You're always going to be their parent. And let them know what's going to change for them and what isn't. What's going to stay consistent. And what might change on a daily basis. And leave the affair out of your child's life.