You know, if you've been in a difficult marriage and you are getting divorced, it is natural to feel some relief and to think everything's about to get better. If you have children, it's important to remember that for them everything is about to get worst, at least in their perception. Even if long term it's a good move for everyone in the whole family. So if you are getting divorced, be aware that your children are going to react to this. They are going to have big reactions, and they will need your help in this big adjustment, and the adjustment goes on for a couple of years. Kids can come out fine from a divorce, but for that to happen they need parents to really understand that this is a hard time for them, to really be compassionate, to help them work through their feelings, to really empathize, and to stay connected so if your child is going back and forth from one home to the other, stay connected to your child even at the times when you are not with your child, and finally do everything you can to get along with your ex now that you are not living together, because one of the big risk factors for children when there's a divorce is when 2 parents keep on fighting.