Generally speaking I would recommend parents avoid confronting the abuser at all without the allegations. These cases are emotionally charged and it's perfectly understandable for a parent who wants to confront the abuser; to express outraged or discuss what the abusers actions. And even to warn the abuser to stay away from the child. And in some cases when the abuser happens to be a trusted family friend or relative, it's understandable for parents who want to seek some sort of understanding or mitigating circumstances on why the report was made. But for my own experiences investigating these cases, I know once an abuser learns of the allegations, he will take steps to destroy evidence. To discredit your child in court. And ultimately these cases can't really proceed in court if there is no evidence. So my recommendation is just avoid any contact with the abuser or at least not mention any indication that allegations have been made.