Open adoption problems

Jennifer Bliss, PsyD Adoption Expert, shares advice on how to avoid problems and misunderstandings in an open adoption and what the usual relationship is between adoptive parents and the birth mother
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Open adoption problems

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When adoptive parents and birth parents match and enter into an open adoption plan, one of the first things we would do is create a contract. Everybody was similar expectations of what the future contracts will look like. We make decisions about pictures, updates, phone calls, emails, video chats, and visits. We really break it down because it is important that everybody understands what the other party is thinking. We want to avoid as many misunderstandings as possible. At the same time, I do want to say that this is a human relationship that you are building and entering into over the years. To expect that there will be no misunderstandings and no glitches in the relationship, that is unrealistic. At the same time, the relationship is important to you in the same way your in-laws are important to you because they are important to your spouse. Your birth parents are important to your child in the same way.

Jennifer Bliss, PsyD Adoption Expert, shares advice on how to avoid problems and misunderstandings in an open adoption and what the usual relationship is between adoptive parents and the birth mother

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Jennifer Bliss, PsyD

Founder of Bliss Adoption Services

Dr. Jennifer Bliss has dedicated her career to adoption education and support. She specializes in providing clinical services for all members of the adoption triad, including adoption education/consultation and pre/post adoption relationship support. Throughout her career, Dr. Bliss has been passionate about educating the public on best practices in adoption and the psychology of open adoption. She is also the author of a new book on open adoption, Another Choice: A compassionate Guide to Placing a Child For Adoption.
Dr. Bliss received her BA in Psychology and BS in Education from University of Southern California. She went on to earn her MSW from UCLA and Doctorate in Clinical Psychology from Ryokan College. Dr. Bliss has supervised adoption counselors across the country and has spoken on the psychology behind open adoption at universities and statewide conferences. She has also appeared as the open adoption expert on radio programs, podcasts, television shows and was the primary adoption consultant and featured counselor on WEtv's 4-part documentary series, "Adoption Diaries.”

 

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When adoptive parents and birth parents match and enter into an open adoption plan, one of the first things we would do is create a contract. Everybody was similar expectations of what the future contracts will look like. We make decisions about pictures, updates, phone calls, emails, video chats, and visits. We really break it down because it is important that everybody understands what the other party is thinking. We want to avoid as many misunderstandings as possible. At the same time, I do want to say that this is a human relationship that you are building and entering into over the years. To expect that there will be no misunderstandings and no glitches in the relationship, that is unrealistic. At the same time, the relationship is important to you in the same way your in-laws are important to you because they are important to your spouse. Your birth parents are important to your child in the same way.