Sperm donors for a gay couple

Naomi Hanna, Certified Nurse Midwife, shares advice lesbian couples on how to best go about choosing a sperm donor for a gay couple
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Sperm donors for a gay couple

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When my partner and I decided we wanted to have a baby, we really decided that we wanted to have fresh sperm and a known donor, but we weren't comfortable asking anyone. We started with a sperm bank and we told everybody we knew what we were doing. The sperm bank has a different amount of sperm because they divide it into ten different portions. It's easier to get pregnant with fresh sperm. As we were trying, we just told everybody. Soon everybody was asking us, are you pregnant? Are you pregnant? Finally, somebody offered and said, "If you are not pregnant this time, we are going to give you sperm." The reason why that worked so well is because when somebody offers, it's just easy for them and you are not going to have all of the complexities of; "what if?" Really, it should be a gift. It shouldn't be a request.

Naomi Hanna, Certified Nurse Midwife, shares advice lesbian couples on how to best go about choosing a sperm donor for a gay couple

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Naomi Hannah, CNM

Certified Nurse Midwife

Naomi Hannah is a midwife who has worked in several birth settings: she has been a Doula, a Certified Professional Midwife, a labor and delivery nurse, and is now a Certified Nurse Midwife. Naomi has approached the many facets of birthing from various angles; a birth center, a home birth practice, and currently a hospital-based practice. She lives in Taos, New Mexico, with her partner of 13 years and their two children, Eden who is 10 and Ezra, seven, both born with the help of known donors. Her personal experience and professional skills have made it possible to help other women conceive at home with alternative insemination.  She is also a singer-songwriter who has taught preschool music classes. She enjoys sharing music with her children and watching their musical language unfold. 

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When my partner and I decided we wanted to have a baby, we really decided that we wanted to have fresh sperm and a known donor, but we weren't comfortable asking anyone. We started with a sperm bank and we told everybody we knew what we were doing. The sperm bank has a different amount of sperm because they divide it into ten different portions. It's easier to get pregnant with fresh sperm. As we were trying, we just told everybody. Soon everybody was asking us, are you pregnant? Are you pregnant? Finally, somebody offered and said, "If you are not pregnant this time, we are going to give you sperm." The reason why that worked so well is because when somebody offers, it's just easy for them and you are not going to have all of the complexities of; "what if?" Really, it should be a gift. It shouldn't be a request.