When children have two mothers, they are going to be faced with a lot of questions from their peers or from adults who are curious or confused about what this means. It's important that you give your kids some information when this happens. For example, my kids' friends asks them, "Which one is the real mother?" So they come home and say, "What do I say? They ask me which one is my real mom?" Now, they can say, they are both real. One gave birth to me, the other adopted me. They can say, "How many mothers do you have?" That kind of makes the other kid think, "Oh, is it weird to just have one mom?" That turns it around a little bit and they can choose to say, "That's my business," if they don't feel like they want to explain themselves to this person. They can choose to say, "Families are all different, and love it what makes a family." They have learned all the different things that they are comfortable with through trial and error and through our conversations. They were gifted with wonderful books that helped instill this in them from a very young age.