Many years ago it used to be that the birth mother had no choice in who the adoptive parents were for her child and it was agencies that would make the selection. But things have fortunately changed and birth mothers are able to chose the adopting parents for their child and they're very happy about that because they're able to pick the family that they want to raise their baby. What I do in my practice is that I have adopting couples prepare a booklet or a "dear birth mother letter" that explains who they are; it talks about them; it talks about what their interests are; what they do; the time that they are going to have to share with the child. If it's a couple they talk about each other; they talk about their family, their friends, their c ommunities and they put it in this booklet with a lot of pictures. Pictures are very important to show a birth mom what a family life is like. And then the birth mom choses and she's able to talk to the family; she's able to meet with the family and she's able to see if she has the connection and a good match with the family.