I could understand why perspective adoptive parents would be skeptical about choosing open adoption route, especially if they have gone through many years of infertility and the emotions involved in that. Their goal is to be a parent and the idea of taking on an additional relative seems unnecessarily complicated. And I understand that, but you are not choosing open adoption because it´s in your best interest, you are choosing open adoption because it´s in your child´s best interest. Open adoption allows a child to grow up in the healthiest environment possible in an adoptive family. They know they weren´t abandoned. They weren´t abandoned. They know who they are. They don´t focus or concentrate constantly on the past because they know it. They can look towards the future. So adoptive parents will often choose it because it is in the best interest of their child but the ironic part is that the studies show over and over again that parents in an open adoptive relationship are actually more confident in their role as the real parents than parents in closed adoption. There isn´t the anxiety of who is she, where is, is she going to steal the baby back, is she hiding behind the bushes. She doesn´t need to in an open adoption. You know where she is. She is Megan. She lives in Chino and she´s dating a guy named Bob. You are going to see her next summer when she is in town. There´s no mystery and there´s no fear because everything is out in the open.