When your child is not the best on the team

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When your child is not the best on the team

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Keeping your child motivated to stay on a team when their performance maybe isn't something like the other players is hard. You are asking a lot of your child, particularly if they see a big difference in how they are performing and how the other players are performing. If it's affecting your child in an adverse way, you have to recognize that, but I think it's important -- and a huge lesson can be learned here -- for your son or daughter, reminding them that they made a commitment to the other team members when they first joined. The coach drafted them or selected them to be on their team and they expected a return on that commitment. That is, that they return to finish the year. It's a great life lesson to tell your son or daughter, you wanted to play on a team, you tried out, you were drafted, you have to fulfill your commitment to your team. If at the end of this year, you don't want to play anymore, that's fine. You have to fulfill your commitment to the coaches and the other members on the team.

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Timothy J. Wheeler, the managing partner of the law firm Greene, Broillet & Wheeler LLP.  He has extensive trial experience in a variety of areas including product liability, general negligence and auto product liability. Tim was named the Lawyer of the Year in Product Liability by Best Lawyers in America for 2013. He was a three-time finalist for the prestigious Trial Lawyer of the Year Award, presented by the Consumer Attorneys Association of Los Angeles (CAALA), for his outstanding trial record and involvement and commitment to consumer rights. Tim is a graduate of Loyola Law School, Los Angeles, CA (J.D., 1978), Tim attended Santa Clara University (BS, cum laude, Political Science, 1975), and was a recipient of the Jesuit Scholarship. While at Loyola High School, Tim's excellence in all areas of student life was recognized by the faculty, which bestowed upon him The Loyola Award. Tim and his wife Nancy reside in Manhattan Beach,  have been married for 37 years and have four adult children, Matt, Tim, Danny, and Mary and two grandchildren, Lily and Grace. 

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Keeping your child motivated to stay on a team when their performance maybe isn't something like the other players is hard. You are asking a lot of your child, particularly if they see a big difference in how they are performing and how the other players are performing. If it's affecting your child in an adverse way, you have to recognize that, but I think it's important -- and a huge lesson can be learned here -- for your son or daughter, reminding them that they made a commitment to the other team members when they first joined. The coach drafted them or selected them to be on their team and they expected a return on that commitment. That is, that they return to finish the year. It's a great life lesson to tell your son or daughter, you wanted to play on a team, you tried out, you were drafted, you have to fulfill your commitment to your team. If at the end of this year, you don't want to play anymore, that's fine. You have to fulfill your commitment to the coaches and the other members on the team.