I think one of the hardest things about raising a child in a transracial family is teaching her both a sense of ethnic identity and self confidence while still having her be a member of the family that looks very different than her. And I think one of the most important things in doing that is understanding that our family is different, that we have a white priviledge as her parents, that we will be afforded certain things within our society and culture that she will sometimes not be afforded. And when that happens to her, I think it is really important for us to let her know that we get it, we understand that, we know that that is happening to her and to validate those emotions. To talk about race, to talk about race relations early, talk about it often and to remember that talking about race and teaching your child a sense of racial identity is not a sprint. It is a marathon. It happens slow, over a long period of time, and just keeping the dialog open will keep your child close to you and your family.